Heart ToolsWhen you need to apologize, do you know how to do it well? Did anyone ever teach you how to apologize well? Probably not, and yet apologizing well is a necessary skill if you want to protect the value of the people that you love. A poor apology can land flat and create even more disconnection. Learn the three parts of a helpful apology and see how much it strengthens your relationships.
Everyone you know longs to be appreciated. At the same time, they will debate and discount the appreciation you try to show them! Learn to master the skill of giving debate-proof appreciation that helps the people you care about feel valued and valuable.
Appreciating people is a world apart from evaluating them. Learn the difference as you master the second step in helping others feel valued and valuable.
Showing appreciation to the people in your life does as much for your heart as it does for theirs. Find out how as you discover the third key quality of a great appreciation.
Take appreciation to a deeper level. When you practice appreciation consistently, you can add a new element that will help you make an even greater impact on the people close to you.
It’s helpful to appreciate what others do to enrich our lives. But there are also times we need to be able to appreciate others not for what they do but for who they are. Learn how some simple words can deeply touch the people you care about.
When you master giving appreciation but are getting little in return, it can be easy to feel taken for granted. Fortunately, there is a simple practice you can adopt to get the appreciation you need in healthy ways.
How do you get your needs met without looking needy? Is it selfish to try to get your own needs met? Discover the simple step you can take to remain in a position of strength while still getting your needs met in healthy ways.
When we disagree, we can divide from, caricature and demonize others quickly. If we can develop the skill of being curious, we can discover that having healthy relationships with people who disagree with us on almost everything can be life-giving and beneficial to our hearts. Just as importantly, we begin to develop the skill of protecting the power of others.
Arguing, labeling and demonizing: We often behave as if a disagreement means we have to be enemies. Nothing can be further from the truth. If you master the skill of listening with respect, you can build life-giving friendships with people who are very different from you. The best relationships are the ones where room for disagreement is protected.